Frientimacy
by Shasta Nelson
Nelson's framework for deepening friendships: positivity, consistency and vulnerability form a triangle, and most friendships stall for lack of one of them. She is practical about how to move from acquaintance to close friend as an adult and honest about the awkwardness involved.
Read it if…
you have plenty of acquaintances and few real friends.
Skip it if…
you want to make new friends from scratch; this is more about deepening.
Three things you will actually use
- Consistency builds closeness more than chemistry.
- Add vulnerability gradually.
- Keep interactions mostly positive.
Do this first
Choose one friendship to deepen and schedule a recurring time to see them.
Our verdict
Practical and specific; a deepening method.
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