Intimacy and Desire
by David Schnarch
Schnarch's work on desire problems in committed relationships: the low-desire partner always controls sex, differentiation, and growing up within the marriage rather than fixing technique. Challenging, adult and original.
Read it if…
you are in a long relationship where desire has faded and technique books have not helped.
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Skip it if…
you want tips; Schnarch wants you to grow up, and says so.
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Three things you will actually use
- Desire problems are normal, not pathological.
- Hold onto yourself; do not borrow your partner's validation.
- Intimacy means being known, not just close.
Do this first
Read the chapter on the low-desire partner and discuss it honestly with your partner.
Our verdict
Challenging and original.
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