Is It Love or Is It Addiction?
by Brenda Schaeffer
Distinguishing healthy love from addictive attachment: the signs, the roots in unmet needs, and the path to 'mature love'. Checklists and a clear framework.
Read it if…
you cannot tell whether your relationship is love or dependency.
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Skip it if…
you want a deeper clinical model; see Mellody.
Try instead: Where to Draw the Line →
Three things you will actually use
- Addictive love is fear of loss; healthy love is freedom.
- Unmet needs drive the addiction.
- Mature love allows separateness.
Do this first
Use the checklist on your current relationship.
Our verdict
Love or dependency.
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