It's Not My Fault
by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Cloud and Townsend on ownership: the blame habit, the eight principles of taking responsibility for your life and relationships, and why ownership is freedom. Direct and practical.
Read it if…
you catch yourself blaming circumstances, parents or partners for where you are.
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Skip it if…
you already over-own everything; this is for the opposite problem.
Try instead: Marcus Aurelius: The Stoic Emperor →
Three things you will actually use
- Blame keeps you stuck.
- Ownership is power.
- You can always choose your response.
Do this first
For one week, remove the words 'because of' from your explanations.
Our verdict
Ownership, directly.
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