It's OK That You're Not OK
by Megan Devine
A therapist who lost her partner in an accident writes against the culture of fixing grief: it is not a problem to solve but an experience to carry, most comfort is for the comforter, and what helps is acknowledgment, companionship and practical support. It is direct, validating and the book grieving people most often say finally understood them.
Read it if…
you are grieving and tired of being told how to feel better.
Skip it if…
you want stages and a timeline; the book rejects both.
Three things you will actually use
- Grief is not a problem; it is love with nowhere to go.
- Acknowledgment helps; advice does not.
- Tend the pain; do not try to end it.
Do this first
Stop trying to feel better; aim to survive the day with as much kindness toward yourself as possible.
Our verdict
Direct and validating.
Compare with other Resilience books
On Grief and Grieving
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler · Resilience
Warm and clarifying.
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