Queen Bees and Wannabes
by Rosalind Wiseman
The book behind Mean Girls: the social hierarchies of adolescent girls, the roles (queen bee, sidekick, banker, target), how cliques enforce conformity, and how parents can help without making it worse. Updated for social media. It is specific, candid and useful for parents who have forgotten how brutal girl world can be.
Read it if…
your daughter is in middle or high school and something social is going wrong.
Skip it if…
your children are young or male; see Masterminds and Wingmen for boys.
Three things you will actually use
- Girl world has rules; learn them before intervening.
- Do not fix; coach.
- Your own cliques and wounds will surface; manage them.
Do this first
Identify your daughter's role in her group from the book's descriptions, without telling her yet.
Our verdict
Candid and specific.
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