Safe People
by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
How to recognize unsafe people (who abandon, criticize, lie, control) and safe ones (who draw you closer to God, to others and to your true self), why we choose the wrong ones, and how to become safe yourself. It is a useful screening framework for friendships and relationships, with a Christian lens.
Read it if…
you keep choosing people who hurt you and want to know what to look for.
Skip it if…
you want secular attachment theory; see Attached.
Three things you will actually use
- Safe people accept, are honest, and stay.
- We choose unsafe people from unfinished business.
- Become safe to attract safe.
Do this first
Evaluate your three closest relationships against the safe-person traits.
Our verdict
Useful screening framework.
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