Platonic
by Marisa G. Franco
A psychologist applies attachment theory to friendship and argues that adult friendship does not happen organically; it requires initiative, vulnerability and showing up. The chapters on making friends, deepening them, and handling conflict are grounded in research and specific. It is the best practical book on a neglected subject.
Read it if…
you have acquaintances and colleagues and no one to call at midnight.
Skip it if…
you want romance advice; this is about friends, deliberately.
Three things you will actually use
- Initiate; friendship does not happen to you.
- Assume liking; it is usually true and it changes your behavior.
- Show up repeatedly; frequency builds intimacy.
Do this first
Assume people like you, and initiate one plan with someone you want to know better this week.
Our verdict
Researched and warm; an important book on adult friendship.
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