Positive Discipline
by Jane Nelsen
Nelsen's Adlerian approach: kind and firm at the same time, family meetings, mistaken goals of misbehavior (attention, power, revenge, inadequacy), natural and logical consequences, and encouragement over praise. It is the foundation of a large training movement and is practical for home and classroom.
Read it if…
you want a non-punitive discipline system with structure.
Skip it if…
you want quick tactics; this is a whole approach.
Three things you will actually use
- Kind and firm, together.
- Misbehavior has a goal; identify it.
- Encourage effort; do not inflate with praise.
Do this first
Hold a weekly family meeting with compliments first, then one problem to solve together.
Our verdict
Structured and humane.
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