The Dance of Connection
by Harriet Lerner
Lerner on speaking up in relationships: how to say the hard thing, when silence is wise, apologizing, and maintaining your voice with difficult people. Warm, wise and specific.
Read it if…
you lose your voice with certain people and want to find it.
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Skip it if…
you want a couples program.
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Three things you will actually use
- Speak with clarity, not heat.
- Silence can be strategy or surrender.
- Keep your voice; let them keep theirs.
Do this first
Have the conversation you have been avoiding, using one of her scripts.
Our verdict
Warm and specific.
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