The Man's Guide to Women
by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams
Gottman research packaged for men: what women are looking for, attunement, the difference between listening and fixing, sex, and why 'trustworthiness' is the trait that matters most. Straightforward and a little generalised, with a solid evidence base.
Read it if…
you are a man who wants the research summarised without being lectured.
Skip it if…
you dislike gendered framing; the book leans on it.
Three things you will actually use
- Attunement beats problem-solving.
- Trustworthiness is the most attractive trait.
- Listen to understand, not to answer.
Do this first
Read the chapter on attunement and practise it once tonight.
Our verdict
The research, for men.
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