The Reality Slap
by Russ Harris
Harris applies acceptance and commitment therapy to the moments when life hits hard, loss, illness, failure, rejection: the gap between what you have and what you wanted, and how to hold pain with kindness, stay present and act on values anyway. It is warm and practical, with his usual clear exercises.
Read it if…
you have just been hit by something and need a way to stand up.
Skip it if…
you want to analyze the cause; this is about response.
Three things you will actually use
- The gap between wanted and real is where pain lives; accept the gap.
- Self-compassion is the first response.
- Act on values even in pain.
Do this first
Practice dropping anchor: notice the pain, notice the body, notice the room, and choose one small action.
Our verdict
Warm and steadying.
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