We Do
by Stan Tatkin
Tatkin's premarital book: the secure-functioning agreement, the couple bubble, social contracts, sex, children, money, and how to repair. Longer and more thorough than Wired for Love; for couples building the foundation deliberately.
Read it if…
you are committing and want to design the relationship explicitly.
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Skip it if…
you want a quick read.
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Three things you will actually use
- Secure functioning is a mutual agreement.
- Protect the couple bubble from everyone.
- Repair fast; it is the only skill that matters.
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Write the couple's 'principles of governance' the book describes.
Our verdict
Designing the foundation.
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