What Makes Love Last?
by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Gottman on trust and betrayal: how trust is built in small moments, how betrayal begins with negative comparisons long before an affair, the 'sliding door' moments, and how to repair after betrayal. It extends the research into territory the earlier books did not cover and is clear-eyed about what can and cannot be rebuilt.
Read it if…
trust has been damaged in your relationship and you want to understand how and what now.
Skip it if…
you want general marriage advice; this is specifically about trust.
Three things you will actually use
- Trust is built in small choices to turn toward.
- Betrayal starts with comparison and secrecy.
- Repair is possible with attunement, not just apology.
Do this first
Notice one sliding-door moment this week and choose to turn toward.
Our verdict
Clear and specific.
Compare with other Relationships books
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
John Gottman with Nan Silver · Relationships
Early version; still diagnostic.
CLICK TO SEE
Browse all Relationships book reviews or get the free Reality Code Cheat Sheet.
As an Amazon Associate, WisdomDeck earns from qualifying purchases. Links marked “Click to see” go to Amazon. We are not paid for opinions, prices and availability are not shown here and change on Amazon, and we never see your purchase details. Nothing here is medical, legal or financial advice.