Wired for Love
by Stan Tatkin
Tatkin combines attachment theory and neuroscience into ten principles for a 'couple bubble': you come first for each other, you know each other's triggers, you repair fast, and you protect each other in public. His anchor, island and wave types help couples see their patterns quickly. Short and practical.
Read it if…
you want a neuroscience-flavored, practical guide to being a secure team.
Skip it if…
you dislike typologies; islands and waves are central.
Three things you will actually use
- Put the relationship first, explicitly.
- Learn and respect each other's nervous system.
- Fight briefly and repair fast.
Do this first
Agree on one couple-bubble rule this week, such as greeting each other first when arriving home.
Our verdict
Practical and neuro-aware; a team manual.
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