Desperate Marriages
by Gary Chapman
For marriages in crisis: the irresponsible, the workaholic, the controlling, the abusive, the unfaithful, the alcoholic spouse, and the principle of 'reality living' (taking responsibility for your own responses). Firm on abuse; practical on the rest.
Read it if…
your marriage is in serious trouble and you need a sober guide.
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Skip it if…
you want general enrichment; this is for crisis.
Try instead: Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion →
Three things you will actually use
- You cannot change your spouse; you can change the dynamic.
- Tough love is love.
- Safety first, always.
Do this first
Read the chapter on reality living and the one matching your situation.
Our verdict
For marriages in crisis.
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