How to Be an Adult in Relationships
by David Richo
Richo's five A's of mindful loving, attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, allowing, as what we needed in childhood and what we must give and receive as adults, with Buddhist and psychological framing and exercises. It is reflective and gentle, and the five A's give couples a vocabulary for what is missing.
Read it if…
you want a contemplative, non-clinical framework for loving well.
Skip it if…
you want research-based methods; it is wisdom literature.
Three things you will actually use
- Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, allowing.
- What was missing in childhood is what we seek now.
- Allowing others to be themselves is the hardest love.
Do this first
Ask your partner which of the five A's they most need from you right now.
Our verdict
Gentle and wise.
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