Polysecure
by Jessica Fern
Fern applies attachment theory to consensual non-monogamy and, along the way, writes one of the clearest general explanations of attachment and trauma available. The HEARTS model for secure functioning applies to any relationship. Readers in monogamous relationships also find the first half useful.
Read it if…
you are in or considering non-monogamy and want a secure-attachment framework.
Skip it if…
the subject is not relevant to you; the general chapters are good but not the point.
Three things you will actually use
- Security is built through consistent, responsive presence.
- Multiple attachments require more, not less, structure.
- Heal your own history; it shows up in every relationship.
Do this first
Read the attachment chapters first and identify your style and your partner's.
Our verdict
Clear and useful beyond its niche.
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