Should I Stay or Should I Go?
by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi
Bancroft's guide for women deciding about a destructive relationship: distinguishing immaturity, addiction and abuse, what real change looks like, and a path to deciding. Clear-eyed and non-judgmental.
Read it if…
you are trying to decide whether your partner can change.
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Skip it if…
you have already decided.
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Three things you will actually use
- Promises are not change.
- Pattern over incident.
- You decide; no one else.
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Read the chapter on what genuine change looks like and compare.
Our verdict
Clear-eyed decision guide.
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