Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
by John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman and Joan DeClaire
Ten real couples' conversations annotated line by line by the Gottmans: what went wrong, what would have worked, and the repair. It is the most concrete of their books because you watch the method applied to actual transcripts.
Read it if…
you learn by example and want to see the method on real conversations.
Skip it if…
you want principles; see Seven Principles.
Three things you will actually use
- Most fights are about feeling unheard.
- Repair attempts matter more than the fight.
- Softened start-ups change outcomes.
Do this first
Read lesson one and identify your own version of the couple's pattern.
Our verdict
The method, on transcripts.
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