The New Codependency
by Melody Beattie
Beattie's update, decades after Codependent No More: what has changed, what codependency is and is not, and how to care without controlling. Shorter and more nuanced than the original.
Read it if…
you read the original years ago and want her current thinking.
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Skip it if…
you have not read Codependent No More; start there.
Try instead: Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them →
Three things you will actually use
- Caring is not codependency; controlling is.
- Boundaries are self-care.
- Detach with love.
Do this first
Take the self-assessment and identify one controlling behavior to release.
Our verdict
Nuanced update.
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