The Verbally Abusive Relationship
by Patricia Evans
Evans names fifteen categories of verbal abuse, withholding, countering, discounting, trivializing and more, and explains why victims doubt themselves. Many readers say it was the first book that explained their marriage.
Read it if…
you feel crazy in your relationship and cannot say why.
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Skip it if…
your relationship has no pattern of put-downs.
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Three things you will actually use
- Verbal abuse has names.
- Confusion is a symptom.
- Respond, do not explain.
Do this first
Keep a log of interactions for a week and match them to the categories.
Our verdict
Names the unnamed.
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