You Are the One You've Been Waiting For
by Richard C. Schwartz
IFS applied to couples: stop asking your partner to heal your exiles, lead from Self, and become the primary caretaker of your own parts. Original and useful for couples stuck in protective cycles.
Read it if…
you keep hoping your partner will fix something only you can.
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Skip it if…
you are unfamiliar with IFS; read No Bad Parts first.
Try instead: The New Codependency →
Three things you will actually use
- Your partner cannot heal your exiles.
- Lead from Self in conflict.
- Courageous love means speaking for parts, not from them.
Do this first
Identify which part shows up in your most common fight.
Our verdict
IFS for couples.
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