Conscious Loving
by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks
The Hendrickses' model of co-commitment versus co-dependence: telling the microscopic truth, taking full responsibility, feeling feelings fully, and the agreements that keep a relationship clean. It is 1990, a little jargon-heavy, and the truth-telling material is excellent.
Read it if…
you want a radical-honesty framework for a couple.
Skip it if…
the therapeutic vocabulary puts you off.
Three things you will actually use
- Tell the microscopic truth.
- Take one hundred percent responsibility, not fifty.
- Feelings felt fully pass; feelings avoided persist.
Do this first
Practise 'microscopic truth' for one conversation and notice what changes.
Our verdict
Radical honesty, for couples.
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