Fight Right
by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman
Conflict as a path to connection: five fight styles, the difference between solvable and perpetual problems, the five steps of a good fight (softened start-up, repair, physiology, compromise, processing). The Gottmans' most focused conflict book.
Read it if…
you fight the same fight repeatedly.
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Skip it if…
you never fight; the book says that is also a problem.
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Three things you will actually use
- Most problems are perpetual; manage them.
- Start softly or do not start.
- Repair is the skill.
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Identify your conflict style and your partner's.
Our verdict
How to fight well.
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