Marriage Rules
by Harriet Lerner
One hundred and six short rules for long-term relationships, organized by challenge: warming up, complaining well, listening, apologizing, fighting, sex, in-laws, distance. Each is a page or two. It is less theoretical than her other books and designed for dipping into when something specific has gone wrong.
Read it if…
you want quick, specific guidance for common marital problems.
Skip it if…
you want depth on one issue; this is breadth.
Three things you will actually use
- Warm up before you criticize.
- Complain about one thing, briefly.
- Overfunctioning breeds underfunctioning.
Do this first
Read the rules on complaining and try one in your next grievance.
Our verdict
Practical and quick.
Compare with other Relationships books
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