Essays on living in agreement with how things actually work — discipline, focus, habits, money, time and the laws behind The Reality Code.
Three gym memberships, maybe forty visits between them. What finally worked cost nothing and happened in my living room. The gym was never the obstacle. The gap between me and the gym was.
I’m not going to tell you what to eat. I’m going to tell you how I stopped letting a drive-through decide it for me at three in the afternoon.
At twenty, friends happened to you. At forty-five, they have to be built on purpose, and almost nobody tells you how. Here’s what worked for a man who moved cities and started over.
When the pieces finally fit, the first feeling isn’t relief. It’s a strange grief for the person who spent decades thinking they were lazy. Both feelings are allowed. Only one of them is a place to live.
Ask anyone their priorities and they’ll tell you family, health, growth. Look at their last two weeks and you’ll see a different list. The calendar doesn’t lie, which is why we avoid it.
I built a business on relationships and I hate networking events. Those two facts aren’t a contradiction. The events were never where the relationships came from.
Some days you can’t do the full plan. The question is what you do instead: nothing, or the tiny version that keeps you in the game. Have the tiny version ready.
I waited until I could ‘afford’ to save and it took fifteen years. The month I started saving before I could afford it, something changed that had nothing to do with the amount.
For years I was the man who never said no. People loved it. I was also quietly furious most of the time, and nobody could work out why.
I’m not a fast reader and I can’t sit still. I still get through more books than most people I know. None of it involves trying harder to concentrate.
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