What to Do When You Don’t Know What You Want
Everyone tells you to follow what you want, as if you’d been issued a list at birth. If you weren’t, here’s how to find out without waiting for a lightning bolt.
Essays on building work that means something: choosing a direction, going deep instead of wide, changing lanes late, and finding the purpose that outlasts a job title. Lessons paid for over four decades of licenses, classrooms and reinventions.
Everyone tells you to follow what you want, as if you’d been issued a list at birth. If you weren’t, here’s how to find out without waiting for a lightning bolt.
Everything that moved my career forward was something I did without being told. Not extra hours. Extra ownership. There’s a difference, and it’s the whole game.
Most people never ask. The ones who do usually ask badly: vaguely, emotionally, at the wrong time. One good ask, prepared like a case, changes your income for years.
I built a business on relationships and I hate networking events. Those two facts aren’t a contradiction. The events were never where the relationships came from.
Most people walk into an interview hoping to be chosen. The ones who end up in good jobs walk in deciding whether to choose. Five questions that tell you more than the job description ever will.
Competence in many things feels like safety. It is often the reason nothing takes off. Pick the one thing to be unreasonably good at.
Coaches are valuable mostly because they close the loop between what you did and what happened. You can build that loop yourself, and most people never do.
Talent gets you noticed at twenty. What you are at forty is almost entirely reps. Here is why the gifted so often stall and the persistent so often pass them.
The research on deliberate practice was done on violinists with empty afternoons. Here is how to apply it when you have a job, a family and forty minutes.
A paycheck isn’t enough. Learn a practical framework for values-based career alignment so your work actually matches the life you respect.
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