Your Excuses Are Very Reasonable. Do It Anyway.

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Nobody stays stuck because of bad excuses. Bad excuses are easy to see through. People stay stuck because of good ones. You really are tired. The week really has been brutal. The timing genuinely is not ideal. Every one of these is true, and their truth is exactly what makes them dangerous, because a true excuse does not feel like an excuse. It feels like a fact, and facts seem to settle the matter. They do not. The fact that you are tired and the question of whether you do the thing are two separate items, and only one of them is up to you.

The Reasonable Excuse Problem

A lie can be caught. A reasonable excuse cannot, because it is not lying. It is selecting. Of all the true things about this moment, it picks the ones that point toward not doing the work and presents them as the whole picture. It is also true that you have done hard things tired before. It is also true that tomorrow will have its own reasonable excuses. It is also true that the thing does not get easier by waiting. The excuse simply does not mention those.

How to Hear It Differently

Try adding one word: “and.” I am exhausted, and I am going to do twenty minutes. It has been a terrible week, and I am making the call. The timing is bad, and I am starting anyway. The excuse gets to be true. It just does not get to be the end of the sentence. Most of the people you admire for their discipline are not people without reasonable excuses. They are people who learned to put “and” where everyone else puts “so.”

Working With It

Say the excuse out loud, fully

Give it its due. “I’m tired, it’s late, and I don’t want to.” Now it is out of your head and in the room, where it is noticeably smaller.

Shrink the task to match the excuse

Tired? Then not the full session. Ten minutes. The excuse is usually against the full task; it rarely holds up against a small one, and the small one keeps the chain intact.

Ask what the excuse is protecting

Often it is not rest. It is avoidance of a specific discomfort inside the task. Name that discomfort and the excuse loses its cover story.

Keep a record

Note the days you did it anyway and how you felt after. You will find that “did it tired” almost never produced regret, and “skipped it because tired” almost always did.

What Doing It Anyway Builds

Every time you act despite a reasonable excuse, you learn something that cannot be learned any other way: that your feelings and your actions are separable. That knowledge is the foundation of every reliable habit and every finished goal. People who have it can build anything, because their plans no longer depend on the weather inside them. People who do not have it are at the mercy of every honest, reasonable, perfectly valid reason not to.

And

You are tired, and. It is late, and. It has been a hard week, and. Finish the sentence with the smallest version of the thing, do that version, and write down how it felt. Your excuses are reasonable. That was never the question.

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