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Working for Someone Difficult Without Losing Yourself
You can’t fix a bad boss. You can decide what they’re allowed to do to your standards, your evenings, and your sense of who you are. Here’s what I learned from a hard few years.
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How to Apologize So It Actually Lands
Most apologies are negotiations in disguise. The real one has four parts, none of them is ‘but’, and it’s one of the most powerful tools an adult can carry.
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Comparison Is a Tax You Choose to Pay
Every time you measure your life against someone else’s highlight reel, you pay a tax in peace and get nothing back. Here is how to stop filing.
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The One-Page Life Plan
I’ve written forty-page plans that nobody read, including me. The one that’s actually steered my life fits on one side of paper and lives in my wallet.
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Ask for the Raise Once, Properly, With the Folder
Most people never ask. The ones who do usually ask badly: vaguely, emotionally, at the wrong time. One good ask, prepared like a case, changes your income for years.
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Debt Is a Behaviour Problem Wearing a Maths Costume
Everybody knows the arithmetic of paying off debt. Almost nobody follows it, because the debt was never created by arithmetic. Here’s what I had to change before the numbers would move.
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An Emergency Fund Isn’t About Emergencies. It’s About How You Sleep.
The first time I had three months of expenses in the bank, nothing in my life changed and everything about how I made decisions did. The money was never the point.
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The Room You’re In Is Deciding Who You Become
You don’t rise to your goals. You drift to the average of the people you spend time with. Which means the most important decision you make this year is who’s in the room.
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The Ninety-Minute Quarterly Review
A year is too long to notice you’ve drifted. A week is too short to see a pattern. Four times a year, I sit down with coffee and three questions, and it’s the most useful ninety minutes I spend.
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Learning Something New at Fifty: Faster Than You Think, Slower Than You’d Like
I got a new certification last year at an age when most people are winding down. The brain still learns. It just needs to be taught differently than it was at twenty.
The WisdomDeck Blog
Essays on living in agreement with how things actually work — discipline, focus, habits, money, time and the laws behind The Reality Code.