The Real Price of Being Easy to Deal With
For years I was the man who never said no. People loved it. I was also quietly furious most of the time, and nobody could work out why.
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Essays on living in agreement with how things actually work — discipline, focus, habits, money, time and the laws behind The Reality Code.
For years I was the man who never said no. People loved it. I was also quietly furious most of the time, and nobody could work out why.
I’m not a fast reader and I can’t sit still. I still get through more books than most people I know. None of it involves trying harder to concentrate.
Most people who say they are short on time are actually short on a decision. The hours are there; they are being spent on not choosing.
Most people walk into an interview hoping to be chosen. The ones who end up in good jobs walk in deciding whether to choose. Five questions that tell you more than the job description ever will.
If everything has to go through you, you haven’t built a business or a team. You’ve built a bottleneck with your name on it. I know, because I was one.
Every piece of paper you pick up and put back down costs you twice. Here’s the one rule that ended the pile on my desk and the pile in my inbox.
If the word routine makes you want to run, you’re not broken. You just need habits built around anchors instead of clocks.
One bad week is a bad week. The story you tell yourself about it is what turns it into a bad quarter. A short field guide to stopping the slide.
It’s eleven. You’re tired. And you’re scrolling anyway, because this is the first hour that belonged to you all day. There’s a name for that, and a way out that isn’t just ‘go to bed’.
Starting is cheap and feels wonderful. Finishing is where all the value is, and almost nobody practises it. Here’s what I had to learn, mostly the hard way.
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